Kids Beyond Limits, lists 9 essentials for your child’s transformation. They are also essentials to our learning, and our waking up to a higher quality of parenting , loving and life in general. This chapter is about awareness. It’s hard to write about.
It’s easy to do. When we remember, and we usually forget. It’s crucial to our child being able to be a choice maker and a learner and a happy developing person.
Let’s give it a go, eh?
AWARE, AWARING, AWARENESS
Awareness
I can be aware of my fingers and my breathing and the sounds of cars and keyboard and my house as I type this
I can just be focused on the words
you can be taking in the words, and aware of the computer and how far you are from it and whether you are breathing in or out, or pausing between
kids you are aware are present to their own being,
as an actual choice making and noticing part of the world
awareness is hard to write about
Anat does a fair job,
but her best suggestion is to practice
so,
as I write,
as you read,
as you listen to and interact with your child
we can practice
being present
present
to
ourselves as alive right now
present to our child
as
alive right now
present to our
ideas about what we want
to happen with our child
noticing without a demand that it be different
noticing without judging,
it’s freedom.
…
and
her best hint:
for whom do we want this to happen
do we want our child
to wake up
be happy
learn
have a fun interaction
with us
or do we want a certain performance to allay our worry?
And to notice
without judging
that’s key to mindfulness which is another way of talking about what Anat’s talking about
she also has a useful bit about kids in their tantrum,
or their anger:
they don’t know what they are doing
right,
and adults, too, when emotional,
it’s usually just a floodgate opening and no one is really home
this is human life:
we can be home to the moment
or
not
including this one
enjoy the game
enjoy the practice
your love life
with child
with self
with life
with mate
will all flourish in
the
now
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